“Going to” not “Want to”

A guest post from a new writing accomplice, Zoe Winters. She writes to encourage you to find your dream and follow through, using the television show The Biggest Loser as a classic example. So read on, and tell us your dreams!

One of my heroes is Ali Vincent.  If you don’t know who this is, she was the winner of the last season of “The Biggest Loser,” a weight loss reality show.  Midway through the season she was eliminated, though the show planned to bring back a couple of contestants from home who earned it.

In the elimination room right after she was eliminated she said: “I am going to be the next biggest loser.”  And she said it with such conviction, that though most of us thought she was loopy, we believed her a little bit.  She became the underdog.  When she was brought back on the show, she became a favorite for the win.

As it got down to the wire, both she and Kelly desperately wanted to be the first girl biggest loser.  Kelly talked daily about how badly she wanted to be the first girl to win and how cool it would be.  But she never said any more than that she wanted it.  No one doubted that she wanted it.  And she worked hard for it.  But she didn’t get it.  Ali did.

Between the two, I can only find one difference.  Ali kept saying “I am going to be the next biggest loser.”  Going to.  Not Want to.  It stopped being a dream and started being a goal.  Of course saying you are going to do something, doesn’t necessarily mean it will happen.

If Ali had failed she would have had “I’m going to be the next biggest loser,” hanging over her head forever, because she said it repeatedly on national television.  Some people thought she was “too cocky,” but I don’t see it that way.  She was single-minded.  This was her goal and it was happening one way or another and if it didn’t happen she would go down fighting.

If she had failed she would have picked herself up off the ground and kept going.  “The Biggest Loser” was a one time opportunity, but she would have found something else impossible to do and would have done it.  Because that’s who she is.  We need more Ali Vincents in the world.

When approaching your writing, what are your goals?  Do you see them as just dreams?  Things you “wish” would or could happen?  Things that would be really cool if they happened?

Do yourself a favor, decide what you’re “going” to do.  Take your dream and own it.  There are no guarantees that this will get you where you want to go, but when you take control and subtly shift a dream to a goal, it shores up your belief in your ability to reach that goal.  And with strong belief comes creative ways to start moving toward the prize.

Zoe Winters writes paranormal romance.  She can be found at http://zoewinters.wordpress.com  Her novella, Kept, will be released as a free e-book from her website in October.  Her novel, Save My Soul, will be released serially as a free podcast, release date to be announced.

12 thoughts on ““Going to” not “Want to”

  1. That's a great story. I remember a few episodes of that, but I didn't get to see the rest of the season because my DVR broke.

    I need to start saying things like that!

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  2. Zoe, I am convinced I will sell. I'm positive about it.

    I don't watch The Biggest Loser, but I'm glad a woman won. And glad the choice was between two women! I did watch So You Think You Can Dance. I really wanted a girl to win this time. The winner, Josh, was great. But his partner through most of the season, Katie, was the best. She should have won, IMO.

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  3. I say I will…but then I don't always move in that direction or I do so very slowly. I want to pick up momentum, gain speed, keep rolling…

    And I know I will.

    Thanks!

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  4. That’s a great story. I remember a few episodes of that, but I didn’t get to see the rest of the season because my DVR broke.

    I need to start saying things like that!

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  5. It’s amazing how changing a single word will help you accomplish your goals. Keep telling yourself that you will do it, and you will. Not that you want to. Just do it!

    Thanks, Zoe, for this great post!

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  6. It’s amazing how changing a single word will help you accomplish your goals. Keep telling yourself that you will do it, and you will. Not that you want to. Just do it!

    Thanks, Zoe, for this great post!

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  7. Zoe, I am convinced I will sell. I’m positive about it.

    I don’t watch The Biggest Loser, but I’m glad a woman won. And glad the choice was between two women! I did watch So You Think You Can Dance. I really wanted a girl to win this time. The winner, Josh, was great. But his partner through most of the season, Katie, was the best. She should have won, IMO.

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  8. Spy: Yes, you do. In the beginning, only you will believe in you. Others won't start until you do, or until it becomes fashionable.

    Belinda: Thanks for having me here! 🙂

    Edie: The finals came down to 3 people. 1 man among them. But the top two I believe ended up being the girls. It's harder for women to lose weight than men, so I find this amazing. I know you will sell too Edie! 🙂

    Amy: Hi, you're welcome. Just keep on rolling. Some days we don't get a lot accomplished on our goals, but any baby step in that direction is still a step you hadn't taken before.

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  9. I say I will…but then I don’t always move in that direction or I do so very slowly. I want to pick up momentum, gain speed, keep rolling…

    And I know I will.

    Thanks!

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  10. Spy: Yes, you do. In the beginning, only you will believe in you. Others won’t start until you do, or until it becomes fashionable.

    Belinda: Thanks for having me here! 🙂

    Edie: The finals came down to 3 people. 1 man among them. But the top two I believe ended up being the girls. It’s harder for women to lose weight than men, so I find this amazing. I know you will sell too Edie! 🙂

    Amy: Hi, you’re welcome. Just keep on rolling. Some days we don’t get a lot accomplished on our goals, but any baby step in that direction is still a step you hadn’t taken before.

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  11. Edie – I love love love So You Think You Can Dance. My favorite was Mark, though. He was so unique, yet diverse and approachable. Katie, of course, never made a mistake, and always looked like dancing was effortless for her (even though she worked really hard). But I really wanted Mark to win and was pretty disappointed he didn't make top four.

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  12. Edie – I love love love So You Think You Can Dance. My favorite was Mark, though. He was so unique, yet diverse and approachable. Katie, of course, never made a mistake, and always looked like dancing was effortless for her (even though she worked really hard). But I really wanted Mark to win and was pretty disappointed he didn’t make top four.

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