Comments on: Love is a Powerful Brain System

By: Belinda

Belinda — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 02:38:00 +0000

@laughingwolf I'd never seen her before, though the name sounded very familiar. Very cool to hear that she's like this all the time.

By: Belinda

Belinda — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 01:38:00 +0000

@laughingwolf I’d never seen her before, though the name sounded very familiar. Very cool to hear that she’s like this all the time.

By: laughingwolf

laughingwolf — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 03:08:00 +0000

i saw helen fisher on various 'sex' shows, and was impressed by some of her thoughts

By: laughingwolf

laughingwolf — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 02:08:50 +0000

i saw helen fisher on various ‘sex’ shows, and was impressed by some of her thoughts

By: Belinda

Belinda — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 19:40:00 +0000

Evangeline, I'm in the same boat as you. I don't believe sex equals love, especially not without attachment and romantic love. But then, I write sweet romance… so none of my characters will have sex "on stage."

I can't wait to read some of your writing! It sounds very interesting; not overambitious or pretentious at all.

By: Belinda

Belinda — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 18:40:06 +0000

Evangeline, I’m in the same boat as you. I don’t believe sex equals love, especially not without attachment and romantic love. But then, I write sweet romance… so none of my characters will have sex “on stage.”

I can’t wait to read some of your writing! It sounds very interesting; not overambitious or pretentious at all.

By: Evangeline

Evangeline — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 01:54:00 +0000

*g* I'm forcing myself to not feel I'm "overambitious" or "pretentious" in order to work on them.

By: Zoe Winters

Zoe Winters — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 01:37:00 +0000

This sounds really interesting, Evangeline! I definitely want to read some of your stuff.

By: Evangeline

Evangeline — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 01:34:00 +0000

This is why I can't just have my characters "go at it" in my books. I am a firm believer that sex does not equal love or compatibility–which is the nonsense the romance genre likes to promulgate. I have a hard time reading today's romances because the emphasis on sex and sex=love (esp great, wondrous, spectacular sex=love) has rendered the both romance and sexual tension null. Reading it distracts me from my views on sex because it's easy to be swept away by what's on the market and attempt to tailor one's work to that.

Two of the books I'm tentatively plotting deal with the same issue: two completely different people who are physically attracted to one another, but don't get along at all or agree on even the basic things–and then they get married! Sex, Love and Marriage are three concepts I like to toy with in my romantic fiction because the "fairy tale" propaganda we've been fed has mitigated true understanding of what makes up the development of a romantic relationship which ends in a HEA.

By: Evangeline

Evangeline — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 00:54:34 +0000

*g* I’m forcing myself to not feel I’m “overambitious” or “pretentious” in order to work on them.

By: Zoe Winters

Zoe Winters — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 00:37:00 +0000

This sounds really interesting, Evangeline! I definitely want to read some of your stuff.

By: Evangeline

Evangeline — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 00:34:30 +0000

This is why I can’t just have my characters “go at it” in my books. I am a firm believer that sex does not equal love or compatibility–which is the nonsense the romance genre likes to promulgate. I have a hard time reading today’s romances because the emphasis on sex and sex=love (esp great, wondrous, spectacular sex=love) has rendered the both romance and sexual tension null. Reading it distracts me from my views on sex because it’s easy to be swept away by what’s on the market and attempt to tailor one’s work to that.

Two of the books I’m tentatively plotting deal with the same issue: two completely different people who are physically attracted to one another, but don’t get along at all or agree on even the basic things–and then they get married! Sex, Love and Marriage are three concepts I like to toy with in my romantic fiction because the “fairy tale” propaganda we’ve been fed has mitigated true understanding of what makes up the development of a romantic relationship which ends in a HEA.

By: Zoe Winters

Zoe Winters — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 20:36:00 +0000

Bwahahahaha I love that about "Then who are all these men having sex with?"

That is kind of funny. Why do men get such a bad rap as cheaters, when clearly they have to have a female to sleep with if they're heterosexual?

By: Kate

Kate — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 19:51:00 +0000

This is great! Thank you for sharing.

By: Zoe Winters

Zoe Winters — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 19:36:53 +0000

Bwahahahaha I love that about “Then who are all these men having sex with?”

That is kind of funny. Why do men get such a bad rap as cheaters, when clearly they have to have a female to sleep with if they’re heterosexual?