From the Notebook: All About Lovers

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  1. Excellent post! Except that I’m not sure Sarah is really being satirical in this excerpt because it’s so spot-on. It’s the little niggling things that can drive you crazy (the wrong way) about someone else.

    Your suggestion that people might follow Sarah’s advice on purpose is intriguing, but it seems to me most 21st-century Americans lack the subtlety to do this. More likely, they might do these things to signal that the relationship is ending, not strengthening. Unlike the majority of people 150 years ago, people today tend to treat their relationships as being as disposable as so many other elements of modern life. Starter marriages are almost as common as starter homes.

    Still and all, I loved reading this! Maybe someday I’ll find someone on whom I can try Sarah’s methodolgy, or who will try it on me. Think how much fun it will be if and when we both pass the tests and get to our HEA!

  2. Excellent post! Except that I’m not sure Sarah is really being satirical in this excerpt because it’s so spot-on. It’s the little niggling things that can drive you crazy (the wrong way) about someone else.

    Your suggestion that people might follow Sarah’s advice on purpose is intriguing, but it seems to me most 21st-century Americans lack the subtlety to do this. More likely, they might do these things to signal that the relationship is ending, not strengthening. Unlike the majority of people 150 years ago, people today tend to treat their relationships as being as disposable as so many other elements of modern life. Starter marriages are almost as common as starter homes.

    Still and all, I loved reading this! Maybe someday I’ll find someone on whom I can try Sarah’s methodolgy, or who will try it on me. Think how much fun it will be if and when we both pass the tests and get to our HEA!

  3. Bill,

    Good point! I think you may be right, as unfortunate as it is, about the starter marriages and the starter homes. It’s something that really bothers me since I take my relationships (family, friends, co-workers, etc) seriously.

    And while it may not be satire because it is so true today, I think it was when first written. Keep in mind that Fanny Fern was shocking and satirical especially when you compare her to other women writers at the time, who emphasized the sentimentality of love.

    Good luck to you and yours, though, with the tests!

  4. Bill,

    Good point! I think you may be right, as unfortunate as it is, about the starter marriages and the starter homes. It's something that really bothers me since I take my relationships (family, friends, co-workers, etc) seriously.

    And while it may not be satire because it is so true today, I think it was when first written. Keep in mind that Fanny Fern was shocking and satirical especially when you compare her to other women writers at the time, who emphasized the sentimentality of love.

    Good luck to you and yours, though, with the tests!

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